It’s Valentine’s day and love is on people’s minds. In the spirit of promoting forgiveness and greater love in the world, I am choosing today to post one of my favorite EFT scripts, written to help melt away the anger, resentment, rage and hurt that only forgiveness can heal. Please try it for any difficult relationship you are challenged with at work or at home. This can also be applied toward people who are no longer living, but need to be forgiven all the same. Forgiveness is a powerful choice. Maybe today is the day to try it.
Choices Statements for a Difficult Relationship
Composed by Betsy Muller
Set Up Statements (rub sore spot or tap karate chop point)
Even though I am powerless against _____’s negativity, I deeply love and accept myself
Even though I never know how ______ will respond to me, I deeply love and …
Even though it doesn’t feel safe to be me when I am around _________, I deeply love …
I am firmly connected to infinite energy, allowing both of us to receive what we need.
I am grounded and protected. My boundaries are safe and solid
I choose to remember I have the freedom and the right to say how I feel
I choose to find safe and compassionate ways to communicate my needs and feelings
I deserve to share my feelings in a way that respects _____ and my own dignity
Negative Round:
I am powerless and alone (top of head)
I can’t say what I really think around … I’ll cause trouble (3rd eye)
I feel like they blame it on me (eyebrow)
I feel disrespected and unappreciated (side of eye)
I’m been silent for far too long (under eye)
I’ve let _____ get to me too many times (under nose)
It drains me to be in this relationship (under lip)
Even if I speak up, _____ won’t listen(collarbone)
Why do I let this get to me? (underarm)
I’m angry when my needs are ignored (under breast)
Positive Round:
I take the time to breathe before each encounter (top of head)
I set a clear intention and intuitively know when and how to speak (3rd eye)
I am committed to a compassionate approach when speaking up (eyebrow)
My presence and voice are powerful and honest (side of eye)
I trust that things are changing for the better (under eye)
I stand up for myself safely (under nose)
I can never be hurt when my intention is peace (under lip)
I express my feelings without judgment (collarbone)
I am heard (underarm)
I offer my voice from a place of love (under breast)
Mixed Round:
I am a victim of a toxic relationship (top of head)
I am able to honestly speak about what bothers me without hurting (3rd eye)
I am distracted by the drama of the angry attack (eyebrow)
I intend to remain safe and peaceful no matter what (side of eye)
They deny me a chance to say what I need or feel (under eye)
I am free and independent of their pull (under nose)
They might pull me into the drama again (under lip)
I am strong, compassionate and protected
There’s nothing I can say or do (underarm)
I create half of the energy in this relationship – and I am strong enough to affect a positive outcome(under breast)
Betsy B Muller, MBA, EFTCert-1, CEC., CEHP 440-238-4731 www.theindigoconnection.com
