One of my frequently requested speaking topics is called “New Ways to Deal with Difficult People”. The title should really be “How to Allow Other People to be Really Great”. What do I mean by that?
There are a few basic principles to remember:
- People who give us “trouble” are really there to teach us something we need to learn
- The “difficult” ones are just mirrors to parts of ourselves that need attention
- We all have egos. Egos grow ugly only when fueled by fear, conflict and drama.
- The ego shrinks in the presence of compassion – awareness toward the distress the other person feels, coupled with a sincere desire to relieve it.
- Setting appropriate intentions, we can disengage the ego.
- Sometimes boundaries are needed to maintain safety. A boundary can also include ending a negative relationship.
Be the change you wish to see. When you send compassionate and loving energy into the universe, there will be something peaceful coming back at you. That’s the blessing of the Law of Attraction. We can create the reality we choose to project.
